Article from: Dr. Lordou Eirni Child adolescent psychiatrist

Child sexual abuse

What’s that?

The involvement of a minor in sexual activity with a minor, which he is unable to understand, is developmentally immature to accept and give his consent. Which also violates the moral laws, the socially acceptable and the laws of the country. There is developmental asymmetry between participants (either age or mentally for cases of N. Lag). According to the law, when there is an age difference of more than 3 years.

According to Cypriot research data 1 in 5 children, is at risk of becoming a victim of sexual abuse.

So the perpetrator guilty of sexual abuse is some stranger, random, there’s violence?

I’m afraid not.

In usual cases the abuser has a close emotional bond with the victim, he is from the child’s family circle.

Initially he builds a relationship of trust with him, speaks sweetly to him, becomes his close friend, the protector and with premeditated physical intercourse, which develops into caresses, in all parts of the body, then the occult parts of the body and later in complete sexual intercourse which is rare.

Initially, the child does not understand what is happening because of close emotional contact with the abuser. At this stage the “cooperation” of the child is achieved and the gifts, the special privileges begin.

How can we understand that our child has been sexually abused?

There are non-specific and specific behaviors that may alert us: Non-specific,​ such as sudden or sudden changes in feeling or behavior sleep disorders, inappropriate sexual activity, with toys, objects, possession of new adult words, for body parts or sexual acts without apparent source.

Specific, age-unexpected knowledge of sexual matters. The child seeks from another child or adult kisses or caresses in the genital country.

Is it the kid’s fault, is it causing this abuse? How do I protect my child from such a risk of abuse?

The child IS NEVER to blame or unwittingly causes it.

The child needs:

  1. Continuously open channels of communication with parents.
  1. Sexual psychoeducation. The child must learn what is sexually healthy, in a manner commensurate naturally for his age and what is an abnormality, from pre-school age.
  1. To speak openly about these issues, our goal is not only to hunt down the perpetrators but to make our children

RESISTANT FRONT IN SUCH FORMS OF VIOLENCE BUT IN ANY OTHER FORM!!!

It can happen to each of us!!!